The ABCs Of Heroic Effort

How To Use Audacity, Boldness, and Courage To Embrace The Difficulties, Obstacles, Challenges, And Adversity Of Day-To-Day Life

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ADVANCE CONFIDENTLY!


“There is an electric fire in human nature tending to purify — so that among these human creatures there is continually some birth of new heroism. The pity is that we must wonder at it, as we should at finding a pearl in rubbish.” ~John Keats


The ABCs

What I love about the ABCs is their simplicity. What I love about acronyms is their ability to make what otherwise might be complex, simple. Yes, there is indeed an underlying theme of simplicity developing here. How do we take complex ideas with multiple facets and turn them into memorable nuggets of applicable information? In a world where we have more knowledge than we could ever use in a lifetime, it is information that is readily applicable to our lives that creates genuine value. This is where acronyms come in. This is where the ABCs of this article come in.

I considered titling this article The ABCs Of Excellence, but then I realized I might be alienating those individuals who don’t YET feel they are worthy of excellence or worse yet, don’t believe excellence is an attainable outcome for them. Yes, there are some who believe excellence is reserved for the few, for someone else, but not them. If you are one of those who believes excellence is for others but not YOU, I have some great news for you and by the time you finish this article it is my hope that you will agree with me.

Excellence might not be readily available to everyone, but effort is. Heroic effort is available to all of us because we all have the potential to become the heroes of our own stories.

AUDACITY

“You have to believe in yourself. You need to have the audacity to be great.” ~Rosie Perez

Audacity is the belief that you, simple old YOU can do, be, or become whatever you COMMIT to!

Audacity is believing with all your heart that you can make a career of whatever you choose if you’re willing to embrace the unconventional, be bold in your pursuit of opportunities, and courageous enough to ACT in the face of FEAR.

Perhaps the best way to describe audacity is by describing what it’s not. Sometimes having a better understanding of what something is not, is the best way for us to get a clear understanding of what it is. This is particularly helpful when a word, a word like audacity for example, has been given a bad rap by someone who has demonstrated characteristics that are incongruent with what it really means to express audacity.

Audacity is believing that you can go from obscurity to influential in a matter of months rather than years. Audacity is believing you were born with a gift and having the courage to do everything in your power to discover and share that gift with the world.

Audacity is writing when no one reads your work. Audacity is painting when no one buys your paintings. Audacity is speaking when no one listens to what you have to say. Audacity is believing that you can somehow make a difference in the problems of the world that seem overwhelming to others and then having the conviction to follow through on whatever small thing it is you believe you can do to make your difference.

Audacity is believing you can and will find a group of likeminded individuals to collaborate with so that you can make the difference you know that only you can make. Audacity is admitting that you can’t do it alone. Audacity is having the courage to start a movement where none exists.

Audacity is growing up in obscurity as an Idaho farm boy and having the courage, belief, and conviction to make your way to Beverly Hills.

Jim Rohn did that!

Audacity is being given the opportunity to rewrite a paper and having the courage to tell your teacher they can keep their “F” and you will keep your dream.

Monty Roberts did that!

Audacity is two bicycle mechanic brothers believing so absolutely in their dream that they would risk everything for its fulfillment.

The Wright Brothers did that!

Audacity was one woman who refused to give up her seat on a bus where she never should have been faced with such a courageous decision.

Rosa Parks did that!

Audacity was one President with the vision to go to the moon in a rocket that would be built with materials that had not yet been invented, not sometime in the future, but in the decade, we found ourselves.

John F. Kennedy did that!

Audacity was one man who had learned the tenets of peaceful protest from another man who brought a monarchy to its knees with his methods and the courage of that man to follow his convictions in the face of those who not only encouraged, but fomented violence against him.

Mahatma Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. did that!

Audacious was the way Vince Lombardi led his team to victory and inspired them to go on and win two more Superbowl’s when no one believed it was possible except him.

I could go on and on about “AUDACITY”, but I think by now you get the idea…

“Audacity is the willingness to believe in yourself and your ability to overcome obstacles and the overwhelming feeling of the impossible.” ~Bobby Kountz

BOLDNESS

“Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Boldness is a characteristic I believe most people possess. Unfortunately, it’s a characteristic that often remains hidden until the right set of circumstances emerge requiring us to take an action that is considered to be bold. In other words, boldness is a characteristic that often lays dormant until it’s called for. Many of us are not naturally bold even if we could be bold, we reserve boldness for situations requiring bold actions instead of employing boldness as a regular strategy.

Why?

According to author Mike Robbins, “even when some of us have moments of boldness, these moments can be scary and are often few/far between.”

He goes on to ask why is this?

“Because we sometimes don’t have the courage to be bold or we don’t find ourselves going for it in our work and our life — or not nearly as much as we’d like (especially during these difficult times).”

If you would like to read more about Mike’s position on boldness you can check out his article here.

Boldness is often looked down upon by others. It can easily be perceived as something other than boldness. It is often misunderstood as arrogance. People who tend to be bold typically have high levels of confidence which they have developed over long periods of time. There’s a definite difference between boldness and carelessness.

A person who constantly jumps into action without a plan isn’t necessarily bold and might even be a fool. People who display the qualities of boldness typically know their objectives and regularly prioritize their outcomes clearly. The reason they can afford to be bold it’s because they possess the ability to recognize an opportunity when it comes along. They also have the wherewithal or chutzpah to be able to say no when they realize the opportunity is not for them. They can say both yes and no with the same level of boldness.

People who are bold are not necessarily overly loud or boisterous and the reason many shy away from boldness is because they don’t want to be labeled loud and boisterous. Being bold is not about being a loudmouth or a bully. Actually, it’s just the opposite. It’s having the quiet confidence to make a bold decision because you have the information necessary to make the decision with confidence. Bold leaders are typically tactful and empathetic. Both leaders also understand the power of silence. A bold leader will often say less than more because they know that more words don’t necessarily equate to a better outcome. They will typically boldly state what they have to say and then they’re done.

People who are bold have the tendency to take advantage of small wins. Boldness requires taking advantage of small opportunities and getting the most we possibly can from all we can give and all we can do. It involves taking action before the right opportunity comes along. Bold people are aware that the right circumstances and the right opportunity may never align, so instead, they create opportunities and make the most of circumstances as they reveal themselves. They don’t wait for all the information to come in before making decisions and they have a high level of trust in their own intuition.

Boldness doesn’t require the complete understanding of a situation before acting. Bold people work to create a series of actions or small steps that allow them to break free from inertia and create momentum in the direction of their desired outcome. They understand that small win’s help build confidence. They understand that small losses help build confidence too! They look to make the most of all opportunities and circumstances without needing a big victory. They would rather experience a few small losses and a series of small wins rather than one big win.

Boldness is a combination of knowledge, reflection, and action.

COURAGE

“With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity.” ~Mark Twain

When someone acts courageously, they demonstrate their willingness to confront uncertainty, to face danger, and even pain. The willingness to face your fear is courage.

Being courageous isn’t always easy. There are times in our lives when we have more courage than others. Typically, when faced with extreme circumstances, this is one of the times we can readily find our courage. Another time that we often find our courage is when our own values are challenged, and someone is wronged, and we feel the need to stand up and say no more.

Courage is often associated with extreme danger and difficulty, the reality for most of us though is that we must be courageous in the face of our everyday lives. The challenges of everyday life force us to adapt, to change, to grow, and to face our fears.

What would you be willing to do or try if you knew you could not fail?

Remember, being courageous isn’t about fighting a single battle. It’s about the willingness to make a small step or a small change in the direction of a dream, it’s about getting up each day and trying again. It’s about being brave in the face of adversity. Courage is hanging on just one moment longer when you would rather give up instead.

Courage is the thing that either shows up or doesn’t when we face challenges. Have you ever felt like giving up because you weren’t making any progress? Have you had a difficult decision to make but you didn’t feel you were up to it? Maybe you’ve lost patience because you weren’t making the progress you thought you should be making. The willingness to continue is a courageous act.

Courage is about baby steps taken in the face of adversity. Sometimes life can be incredibly challenging, and we can feel as though we’re not getting anywhere. We must remember that every courageous step counts, and if we take small steps every day, one day at a time, we will get to our destination if we don’t give up.

Here are some examples of what courage looks like in action:

Courage is apologizing to someone you’ve hurt. Courage is asking for help. Courage is starting something new with no guarantee of success. Courage is believing in yourself for the first time. Courage is learning to say both yes and no. Courage is speaking up for yourself or a cause you believe in. Courage is the willingness to walk away from the ordinary. Courage is also the conviction to follow your heart. Courage is walking away from all the negativity and gossip that you will likely face when you attempt something you’ve never done before. Courage is believing in yourself and your ability to do amazing things. Courage is believing that YOU are amazing.

There is a superhero in all of us, we just need the courage to put on the cape. Courage is a mindset. Courage is not something you either have or you don’t, it’s something you develop over time. According to the author Brené Brown, “Leadership is not about titles or the corner office. It’s about the willingness to step up, put yourself out there, and lean into courage. The world is desperate for braver leaders. It’s time for all of us to step up.”

Here’s another quote that speaks to what courage is…

“Courage is not the absence of fear or despair; It is the capacity to continue on despite them, no matter how great or overwhelming they become.” ~Robert Fanney

As a reminder, courage doesn’t always roar. As a matter of fact, as Mary Anne Radamacher expressed in her book, “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow.”

Her book is dedicated to those who “understand the difference between explicitly expecting success and working in a construct where to “try again” requires the deepest courage of all.”

“When is courage a little voice instead of a roar?” For more on this topic, you can read this article by Kat Sanders here.

What if the only thing between you and everything you want from life is the willingness to find your voice, to take up space, to speak your truth? What if TODAY was the day, you found your voice because the words on this page gave you the permission you needed to BE who you are?

What if?

What if the ABCs, your ABCs, were all you needed to apply the heroic effort required to turn your situation around so you could begin to live the life you know you deserve? What if?

Start your QUEST today. Start with your ABCs!


I will continue to Advance Confidently, but the advance will be in the direction of my highest calling NOW which is to fulfill my desire of completing my Create Your QUEST™ course for anyone who has struggled with making a commitment to their ideal highest expression of themselves.

With so many demands, and so many distractions, it’s easy to get off course and find ourselves deeply involved in great work that’s unfortunately not moving us in the direction of where we most choose to go right NOW!

Create Your QUEST™ has been formulated to help YOU focus on what’s most important to you not only now, but also in the future. It’s a framework that was designed to take you from where you are to exactly where you choose to be, not overnight, but one step at a time, one moment at a time, one day at a time, one breath at a time!

It’s called Create Your QUEST™ because I believe each of us has the potential to be the hero of our own story and I knew I could create a compelling framework to guide individuals through the arduous process of making a commitment to their dream and the future they desire to create for themselves and their families.

Therefore, I decided to put my next book on the back burner and will instead focus all my efforts on the completion of the project I am most excited about which is Create Your QUEST™!

It’s my intention to have the course ready for release by the end of October with a soft launch and a beta group to make sure it’s ready for prime time in the coming new year when most people are struggling with what to do next and how to make sure next year is different than last year.

If you are interested in potentially being part of my beta group, send an email to bkountz15@gmail.com with BETA in the subject line.

I know the course I am currently creating and the book I will still eventually release, will be worth the wait because that’s my commitment to you, my readers. Thanks in advance for your trust and patience!

In the meantime, enjoy this special audio short story I originally released on Twitter to commemorate my Independence Day and my 31st year of sobriety. You can watch/listen here ( https://youtu.be/9zP4kk5OTlo ). You can find me on Twitter @bobby_kountz


Keep Pedaling, Keep Going, Keep Growing!

Advance Confidently!

If you enjoyed and found value in this article, please share it.

In Gratitude,

Bobby Kountz, Author, Speaker, Sobriety Scholar, Inspirationalist!

PS. You can find out more about me here. You can find my book on Amazon.

Breathing Is The Beginning Of Everything

Slow Is Smooth And Smooth Is Fast

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ADVANCE CONFIDENTLY!


“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” ~Oprah Winfrey


Inspiration is all around us. To experience it though, we must be willing to give ourselves permission to slow down, to focus, to breathe. With so many shiny objects vying for our attention, it’s quite easy to become distracted.

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One of the best ways to come back to our center is to breathe. We have this underlying belief that somehow, probably because we are human and capable of amazing things, that we can multitask our way to success.

After all, if doing one thing is good, then doing several things must be better, right?

WRONG!

An old memory of a book title came knocking and it got me thinking about multitasking or focusing on multiple projects at the same time and in breaking down the title of the book, I realized it would be impossible to do the two tasks of the title at the same time.

The book title is Chop Wood, Carry Water.

As I tried to picture myself chopping wood and carrying water, it was immediately apparent that it would be impossible to do both at the same time. Can you imagine the chaotic scene of a character attempting to both chop wood and carry water at the same time?

It made me laugh!

Well, for a moment anyway… Then I paused long enough to take a breath as I reflected on how as human beings, we are continuously trying to chop wood and carry water at the same time. My mind quickly shifted to an image of an entertainer on stage spinning plates. As we watch the show, we are mesmerized as the entertainer adds more and more plates until the inevitable crash brings that segment of the show to a conclusion.

How many plates are you spinning? How many tasks are you managing? How many jobs are you doing? How many hats are you wearing?

If you are like me in any way, shape, or form, you probably believe you are a better multitasker than you actually are.

It wasn’t until I recently slowed down long enough to enjoy a vacation to Maine that I realized I was trying to do too many things at a time. I have been writing a weekly article for over a year now while I have simultaneously been working on my second book and trying to create a small business and create an online course to help people turn their dreams and aspirations into a tangible outcome by designing a course that would systematically and logically take them on a journey of discovery, opportunity, and action, a QUEST. And, I have been trying to do all of this while also working a full-time job…

When I finally came back to my breath, opened up my shirt and found there indeed was no large “S” emblazoned on my chest, I realized it was time for a change. Perhaps it was the changing of the seasons that prompted this idea of a need for a change. The trip to Maine was all about taking time to enjoythe changing of the season from Summer to Fall.

To enjoy the trip, I had written my weekly article ahead of time and had it prepared and ready to send out on time which is normally Wednesday. Today is Friday and I am only just now writing my weekly article as it finally came to me in my sleep. Yes, I awoke with the idea of this article in my mind and arose from bed before the alarm went off because I knew there was something profound that needed to be captured and that something is the words now methodically materializing on the page.

The profundity remains to be seen…

The reality is far more striking than anything remotely close to profound. I have simply been trying too hard to do too much and watering down and fragmenting my results in the process.

My mind has been silently working on a way to present this idea to my ego for some time now and it took me slowing down long enough for a vacation to begin to listen.

In the silence of the woods, surrounded by beauty, I found my mind wandering away from where I was and onto each of the various projects I have ongoing in different states of completion and I remember thinking to myself, this is crazy, look around you, this is where you need to be right now, all of your projects will be waiting for you when you get back, FOCUS and enjoy the moment…

As I processed that thought, I came back to my breath and I came back to the moment and as I became fully present, I was in awe of my surroundings. If I hadn’t given myself permission to be present, to be in the moment, I would have missed it!

What would I have missed? I would have missed the mushrooms growing in places we wouldn’t expect to see them.

Photo from Author’s collection.

I would have missed the fallen leaves laying on the ground in all their majesty, a tapestry that became natures carpet…

Photo from Author’s collection.

I would have missed the trees that held the leaves until they were reluctantly released…

Photo from Author’s collection.

I would have missed the stunning reflection of two hills majestically resolute and unmoving…

Photo from Author’s collection.

I would have missed all the different colors of green, a monochrome rainbow of tone and texture, from the moss, to the lichens, to the ferns, to the trees…

Photo from Author’s collection.

I would have missed the sound of the babbling brook and the raging waterfall, one subtle, one not…

Photo from Author’s collection.

Photo from Author’s collection.

I would have missed seeing natures finest example of resilience, determination, and persistence…

Photo from Author’s collection.

I would have missed all these things and so much more and thinking about this got me thinking about how many other things I have been missing… It inspires me now to ask the question about how many things you might be missing too?

What have you been missing?

I know I have been missing golf and it wasn’t until I gave myself permission to watch some of the Ryder Cup matches that I realized just how much I miss playing and isn’t it interesting how the world will make us even more aware of what we are missing once we finally realize we are missing it. Like this article from my friend and fellow writer Billie for example who wrote an article about golf (it’s more than just another article on golf).

It’s not necessarily the game itself that I miss, its what happens to me as I play. When I play golf, I slow down and as mentioned at the beginning of this article, as my friend and mentor Michael constantly reminds me, slow is smooth and smooth is fast. When I combine the intentionality of the awareness of my breath with the understanding that golf is a game that can only be played and never won, I give myself the permission to enjoy being outside and at one with my surroundings.

Breathing is a huge part of golf because there is no way to make a smooth swing if you are not relaxed. We tend to hold on to our breath and the club too tight, and it is actually the relaxed grip that better serves the swing. Loose muscles flow, and golf, although a sport of speed when it comes to striking the ball, is also a sport of opposites. A great example is for the ball to go up, you must hit down on the ball. It is the descending blow in combination with the loft of the club that gets the ball into the air. It’s counterintuitive. You might think that swinging harder might give you a better result and I can assure you the exact opposite is true.

Ok, enough about golf and back to the article at hand.

Before I left to go on vacation, I discovered an article by Darius Foroux that got me thinking about this idea of trying to do too much. There were many other elements equally as influential as the article, but for some reason, the words of the article really resonated with me and I believe before I ever got on the plane, I knew that Fall would have a special significance for me this year, one well beyond the splendid colors and the experience of being away would afford me…

I will continue to Advance Confidently, but the advance will be in the direction of my highest calling NOW which is to fulfill my desire of completing my Create Your QUEST™ course, designed for anyone who has struggled with making a commitment to their ideal highest expression of themselves.

With so many demands, and so many distractions, it’s easy to get off course and find ourselves deeply involved in great work that’s unfortunately not moving us in the direction of where we most choose to go right NOW!

Create Your QUEST™ has been formulated to help YOU focus on what’s most important to you not only now, but also in the future. It’s a framework that was designed to take you from where you are to exactly where you choose to be, not overnight, but one step at a time, one moment at a time, one day at a time, one breath at a time!

It’s called Create Your QUEST™ because I believe each of us has the potential to be the hero of our own story and I knew I could create a compelling framework to guide individuals through the arduous process of making a commitment to their dream and the future they desire to create for themselves and their families.

Therefore, I decided to put my next book on the back burner and will instead focus all my efforts on the completion of the project I am most excited about which is Create Your QUEST™!

It’s my intention to have the course ready for release by the end of October with a soft launch and a beta group to make sure it’s ready for prime time in the coming new year when most people are struggling with what to do next and how to make sure next year is different than last year.

If you are interested in potentially being part of my beta group, send an email to bkountz15@gmail.com with BETA in the subject line.

I know the course I’m creating and the book I will still eventually release, will be worth the wait because that’s my commitment to you, my readers. Thanks in advance for your trust and patience!

In the meantime, enjoy this special audio short story I originally released on Twitter to commemorate my Independence Day and my 31st year of sobriety. You can watch/listen here ( https://youtu.be/9zP4kk5OTlo ). You can find me on Twitter @bobby_kountz

Keep Pedaling, Keep Going, Keep Growing!

Advance Confidently!

If you enjoyed and found value in this article, please share it.

In Gratitude,

Bobby Kountz, Author, Speaker, Sobriety Scholar, Inspirationalist!

PS. You can find out more about me here. You can find my book on Amazon.